Grief.

This article won’t be a eureka moment for anyone. It’s a form of self-therapy, and a reminder.

You're never ready for death

I don't believe you can prepare for the passing of an old or sick person, and you definitely can't prepare for a completely unexpected death. It can come when you least expect it and you never know how you'll react until it does.

Take your time

It's super cliché but there's no better way to put it. Some will process grief faster, others will take longer, and for some the world will never be the same. And it's fine.

You don't have to

You don't have to talk to anyone, you don't have to go to the gym, you don't have to run or take any other dumb advice. Those things would probably help, but you have to process it your way. If you need to spend time with yourself, do it. If you have to talk to someone and let it all out -- I hope that person is by your side.

Try

Just try not to be an asshole to others. Try to still push through, even though it may feel like the toughest thing ever. You just experienced how hard it hits when someone close to you is gone. Do your best to push through. Please.

If your loved one is going through it...

Try not to snap. It's harder than it sounds. Support them. Keep checking on them, no matter what. You don't even realise how often you are the last anchor and the last bit of hope they have.

You never know what others are going through

Cliche again, but you never know what's going on in someone's mind and in their life. If they skip a training session, underperform at work or don't want to go party with you -- instead of judging and making them feel guilty, remember you never know what they're going through. There are things way more important than your dumb party -- and trust me, you won't lose your gains over three missed sessions.

Just try to be kind. Kinder.

Rest In Peace, Angel.

Raf